Friday, June 26, 2015

Feel Free to Unfriend Me

Exactly two years ago today!
I am ecstatic about the U.S. Supreme Court's decision making marriage equality the law of the land.

If you disagree, if you don't think I should have the right to have my marriage recognized nationwide, please if we are friends on Facebook or in life, feel free to unfriend me.

But before you do, I ask you to consider how you would feel if your spouse was hospitalized and weren't allowed in the room? I don't have to imagine. I have experienced it.

How would you feel if your spouse died, and you weren't allowed to bury him or her because you were a legal stranger and the law required immediate family to claim the body, even if that person was someone your spouse hated? What if you weren't allowed at the funeral? I have friends who experienced this after 20 or more years together.

How would you feel if you lost your home because your spouse died and you had to pay inheritance tax on "their half" of your home. It has happened to many gay people.

Civil marriage brings some 1,300 rights and responsibilities. Wills don't cover it. And some states could ignore even wills. And medical powers of attorney. It happened, a lot.

And hopefully it won't any more.

So maybe you still have religious beliefs that oppose marriage equality. Fine. But you don't get the right to impose those beliefs on others. Because you know what? My church believes in marriage equality. We were married in the church.

Think marriage is a Judeo-Christian ideal? Then why can atheists marry?

Think it is for procreation? Then why can the elderly and the infertile marry?

They can, because just as was determined in Loving v Virginia in 1967, marriage is about love, and it is a civil right.

And before you worry that this means your church will be required to marry gay people, it won't. A Catholic priest is not forced to marry non-Catholics. A rabbi is not forced to marry Christians. In fact, when we got married in our church, our pastor had just refused to marry a couple because they did not want to go through the required premarital counseling. Churches will still get to decide what is right for them, Just not for everyone else.

So please celebrate with me, because for the first time, I feel like a full citizen. I feel like the country that I serve, that I have kept faith with, has finally kept faith with me.

And I want to close with this, Justice Kennedy's eloquent final paragraph in the 5-4 ruling:


"No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be con- demned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization's oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.

The judgment of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is reversed.

It is so ordered.

Thursday, June 18, 2015

U.S. Embassies Flying Rainbow Flag for Pride

I am glad to see all the ways the Department and our embassies around the globe are celebrating Pride Month. I was especially happy to see our embassy in Tallinn raise the flag again, as I know many embassies hesitate to fly it (does the FAM allow it or not...our conclusion was yes, just not about the American flag. I am good with that.)

Of course, the State Department had a Pride event:

LGBTI+ Pride at State: Remarks by Deputy Secretary Higginbottom
Deputy Secretary of State for Management and Resources Heather Higginbottom delivers remarks at the Department of State’s "Pride at State" event.
Posted by U.S. Department of State on Friday, June 5, 2015
You can check out articles on it on the Department's blog as well as at The Advocate and the Washington Blade.

Here is a few pieces on some of the ways embassies are marking the month.

Obama uses embassies to push for LGBT rights abroad

Gay pride flag hoisted above US embassy in Israel

Plus a nice FB cover photo from AFSA, our employee association







Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Should I Stay or Should I Go

First, a belated Happy Pride, y'all.

It may be the curse of being in language training (ONE of the curses of being in language training?), that I just don't find myself writing here much. There isn't a whole lot to say about studying language: it is hard, testing sucks, hitting walls hurts. Rinse, repeat.

And so I have found myself not writing, even when there were things I could post...as I type I have at least three webpages up on events I should have covered.

So maybe I am bored. Or lazy. Or bored and lazy.

And I think about just not blogging anymore. Not taking the page offline, but just leaving it. So people can use the blogroll or any info they find useful in the blog.

This isn't the first time this has crossed my mind. Nine years is a long time for a blog.

But inevitably, as has happened every. single. time. I have considered quitting, I meet someone for the first time who tells me how helpful the blog was when they joined the service.

And I feel guilty (because I am a former Catholic, and are any Catholics really completely "former"?), and I stay.

And so it happened again this weekend, at Pride.



And so I am back. I am I will try to write more. And I will hope that I have something interesting and useful to say, especially once I get to Kosovo next month.

Or sooner, depending on SCOTUS.

Tuesday, June 02, 2015

LGBT Envoy Berry on Latin America

The Washington Blade had a nice piece on State's Special Envoy for LGBT rights Randy Berry and his comments on Latin America,

Berry: Latin America at ‘forefront’ of global LGBT rights movement

Friday, May 01, 2015

LGBT Envoy Randy Berry

There has been some nice publicity surrounding the appointment of Randy Berry as the Department of State's Special Envoy for LGBT rights around the globe.

Check out this story in the Washington Blade:

LGBT envoy backs ‘nuanced’ approach to promoting rights

and this one in Politico.

America's new LGBT envoy: His job is to promote the human rights of gays and lesbians around the world.

Saturday, April 25, 2015

Randy Berry: LGBT envoy ‘an innovation’

I meant to bring this to your attention when it came out last week.

The Blade did a nice piece on Randy Berry, the new LGBT envoy for the Department. You should go check it out:

Randy Berry: LGBT envoy ‘an innovation’